Reddit rules index · read 2026-10-05
Can you promote on r/relationship_advice?
Self-promotion restricted Its rules restrict self-promotion. Posts that promote your own work are likely to be removed.
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This page quotes r/relationship_advice's rules as ThreadFox read them on 2026-10-05. The quoted text is the community's; the verdict above is our reading of it. Conditions often decide whether a post fits (a required thread, flair, posting day, account age or karma), and r/relationship_advice's current rules on Reddit always win over this page.
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What its rules say about promotion
Keep It Civil
No insults, no threats of violence, no encouraging violence, no telling an OP to go to punch someone else, no threats, no harassment, no trolling, no advertising other subs, no spam. You will be banned. All bans in this sub are permanent. You don't get a free pass. For more information, please see our [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/wiki/rules#wiki_rule_8)
No referencing hateful or abusive subs/individuals/content
**No referencing hateful or abusive subs/individuals and content**. No advocating for or referencing content that is conspiratorial in nature, transphobic, anti-women/men, anti-LBGT+, that promote anti-vaxx or anti-science content, or contains harmful rhetoric against groups of people. Think includes linking to subs that feature this. You will be banned. You don't get a free pass. [Further information](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/wiki/rules#wiki_rule_9)
What its rules say about AI and bots
All posts must request specific advice on a specific, real situation between two or more people
Only specific, genuine requests for advice are allowed. - Vague requests, e.g "What would you do?" or "Any advice would be appreciated." - Venting or ranting without requesting specific advice. - Posts about potential relationships (consider r/dating_advice) - Posts giving unsolicited advice - Posts generated by LLMs or AI such as ChatGPT or Claude - Other posts that are not genuine, specific requests for advice. Posts such as these will be removed and authors potentially banned.
All 11 rules of r/relationship_advice
- Posts must contain a title, description, TLDR, & basic info like ages, genders
Posts MUST include: * Title that summarizes the problem or question. * Title that includes ages/genders. * Description of your situation. * Length of your relationship. * Specific request for the advice you want. * Brief [**tl;dr**](http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/TLDR) if your post is longer than a few paragraphs. Examples for including ages/genders in the title: - I [24M] have an issue with my aunt, [45F]... - My partner [19NB] told me [21MtF]... - I [45F] love my husband [51M] but... - All posts must request specific advice on a specific, real situation between two or more people
Only specific, genuine requests for advice are allowed. - Vague requests, e.g "What would you do?" or "Any advice would be appreciated." - Venting or ranting without requesting specific advice. - Posts about potential relationships (consider r/dating_advice) - Posts giving unsolicited advice - Posts generated by LLMs or AI such as ChatGPT or Claude - Other posts that are not genuine, specific requests for advice. Posts such as these will be removed and authors potentially banned. - No questions that can be answered with just a "yes" or "no" (aka moral judgment)
If your post contains any kind of yes or no question within its title or body, it will be removed. Yes or no questions include: - "Is it [...]?" - "Am I [...]?" including acronyms "AITA" or "AIO" - "Does anyone else [...]?" - "Has anybody else [...]?" - "Should I [...]?" - "Would you [...]?" - "Is this [...]?" - "Can I [...]?" - Asking if something is right or wrong. If the question in your post can be answered with a yes or no question, it will be removed. - Things This Sub Can't Give Advice On:
Rants, unsolicited advice, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, mental health issues, medical health issues, legal problems, financial problems, any situations involving minors (under 18 regardless of local laws), and any situations involving abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. - Only One Update Is Allowed
You can submit **one** update post at any time after 48 hours has past from the original post. Additional advice may be requested in new posts but they may not be continuations of the orignal one. E.g. no titles saying "Update 2" or "Update 4" or "second update". We're not a blog. Please post further updates on your own profile. - Surveys, Academic Research, Information Requests, and Media Questions Should Be Sent to Modmail
Surveys, information requests, and journalistic or academic research questions must be sent to [modmail](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/relationship_advice) prior to posting. If you are doing academic research, message us with your IRB number, a point of contact for us to verify your pending research, and the details of your research for consideration. Press Requests must be routed through modmail, via u/eganist , before communicating with users directly. - All comments must be on topic, and focus on the OP, and be made in good faith
Derailing arguments, jokes fighting, and moral whataboutism is not allowed. Give good, ethical advice. Remember, the goal is to help your fellow human. - Keep It Civil
No insults, no threats of violence, no encouraging violence, no telling an OP to go to punch someone else, no threats, no harassment, no trolling, no advertising other subs, no spam. You will be banned. All bans in this sub are permanent. You don't get a free pass. For more information, please see our [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/wiki/rules#wiki_rule_8) - No referencing hateful or abusive subs/individuals/content
**No referencing hateful or abusive subs/individuals and content**. No advocating for or referencing content that is conspiratorial in nature, transphobic, anti-women/men, anti-LBGT+, that promote anti-vaxx or anti-science content, or contains harmful rhetoric against groups of people. Think includes linking to subs that feature this. You will be banned. You don't get a free pass. [Further information](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/wiki/rules#wiki_rule_9) - Do not directly message users
If you wish to opine on the matter at hand, you are to comment on the post. Users found to be privately messaging other users to circumvent this directive will be met with a permanent, irrevocable ban. **If a user has sent you harassing messages, please upload your screenshot to Imgur.com, and notify the mods via modmail. We will action the user accordingly.** - No situations involving people under 18
Your content has been removed because it involves a situation with someone under the age of 18. Please note that changing your ages to get around this rule will result in an immediate ban. Please consider posting this to our sister subreddit, r/teenrelationships
What the written rules don't show
- Unpublished minimums. Many communities remove posts from new or low-karma accounts through AutoModerator settings that are not on the rules page, often before a moderator sees them.
- Reddit's own filters. Reddit's site-wide spam filters can remove posts from accounts that mostly share links to their own site, in any community.
- The community's norms. Many communities see themselves as peers, not an audience: post where you already take part, and make the post worth reading without the link.
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